Jun 9, 2019
Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash Just FYI: Anger is not bad. Anger is a normal human reaction to any threat in the environment. If your physical or psychological well-being is under attack, anger is one possible reaction. And it’s okay to feel it,...
Jun 7, 2019
Photo by Krzysztof Kowalik on Unsplash Anger is a troubling emotion. And it’s confusing when you hear psychotherapists and psychologists mistakenly describe anger as a secondary emotion – meaning, we feel something else first (usually fear) and then go to anger...
Jun 2, 2019
Photo by Dingzeyu Li on Unsplash What Do Reactions Look Like? You’re in a fight with someone you care about. You’re angry. You feel justified in your anger because he/she is not listening to you. You feel unheard and invalidated. Before you know it,...
May 31, 2019
Photo by Taylor Smith on Unsplash Inside Out We are emotional beings, and there is no getting past the fact that our emotions can control the way we show up in conversations, conflicts, and relationships in general. And as we learned in The What and Why of Emotional...
May 28, 2019
Photo by Sydney Sims on Unsplash What is emotional pain? Well, for one thing, it’s a lot more complicated than just physical pain. It’s a kind of mental suffering that happens when you don’t pay attention to, and care for, your negative feelings. It also only...
May 24, 2019
As a therapist, I hear girls and women say things like “I don’t want to be like that” or “I don’t want to think that way” or “I don’t want to feel like this” whenever they tell me about a relationship conflict, a disappointment at work, or past trauma –...
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